mrcolr wrote:i must be missing something, but i can not figure it out. any help would be appreciated. thanks!
Both devices need to be on the same wifi network or both need to have Bluetooth activated.
Pause the game on the iPad and click "Connect iOS Controller" then from your iPhone in the Options menu click "Connect as Controller" then "Connect" and wait a moment. It should automatically connect, if not try clicking "Connect" again.
Let me know if that helps!